By Marcia Hylton
Marcia Hylton is a Certified International Coach specialising in recovery and emotional resilience after narcissistic abuse and other toxic relationships.
As a recovery coach, Marcia draws not only on her specialist coaching skills but also on her experience as a survivor of domestic and narcissistic abuse. Marcia is all about helping women find their way back to themselves with tools and strategies to guide them towards their own transformation and healing.
Certified practitioner of Life Coaching, NLP and Timeline Coaching
Certified Women's Transformational Workshop Coach & Facilitator
Certificate in Relationship Coaching
Marcia has over 30 years in healthcare and the education industry as an advanced medical practitioner and lecturer, and has experience promoting holistic health with special interest in women’s mental and emotional health through community education. She is also a certified integrative and transformational coach and a survivor of narcissistic abuse
Embracing My Brokenness
I came across a quote recently that says ‘Transformation begins when you can no longer dwell in a place of pain’. I have been there so many times; it’s exhausting, but I’ve had to tread the journey of recovery. Some of the journeys have been harder than others. Right now I find myself in that familiar but painful place.
So I have been in a place of reflection, considering what’s really important to me at this stage of my life. After all, I’m kinda up there in age. What lessons have I truly learned over the years? As I was considering these questions and mindlessly surfing the net wondering when this latest journey would end, I came across a concept I’d never heard of before. It caught my attention.
It’s called Kintsugi. A Japanese process which when translated means ‘Golden Joinery’. It’s an art where broken ceramics are carefully and tenderly repaired with lacquer or glue mixed with powdered gold. The ceramic doesn’t look how it used, but better and more beautiful. The fractures are there for all to see, but it’s still beautiful, a new work of art!
How many of us have experienced the pain of life? The trauma, heartbreak and life challenges we all face? We all have. We pretend and show the world we are okay. But the reality is, it’s not okay! But in looking at the whole concept of Kintsugi, it spoke not just of broken pots but of broken lives and revival.
I saw this as a metaphor for my own life. I may have been and felt broken, but in this I saw I could rebuild if I chose. I may not be exactly the same, but I can put myself back together, the scars might be visible, but they show my story, my imperfections and within those imperfections is my perfection. And so it is with courage that I can face the world and move forward.
A quote from OSHO; ‘Courage is a love affair with the unknown’. Who actually knows what the future holds? Time now to heal, to move on, for self acceptance and to celebrate my uniqueness.
So today I invite you to sit with:
In what areas of your life do you feel broken?
Where were you able to put yourself back together stronger and better?
In what ways have you turned your wounds into wisdom?
Much love and blessings