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My 3C - Choice - Chance - Change

Salinda Therik ©

We face so many choices and chances. Even in the middle of crowded places while you are queuing for your turn, sitting on the train, driving your car, facing the computer, cooking your favorite meal, walking on the street, climbing a mountain, or even when you just laying down on your bed.

So many choices…

So many chances…

Your mind and your heart could be having a war inside silently. But, that’s the reality though! Life is full of attractive choices and chances. Even though I am raised in a moderate open-minded family that has mixed culture and traditions, some guidelines are still applicable and we need to follow them. I am allowed to choose things that will give a positive impact and not harm myself and others.

As a child who was born between my eldest brother and youngest sister, I saw some live examples and the results of every action and decision. Of course, my siblings have been always trying their best not to set negative examples for me. Though, mistakes and regrets might happen somewhere along the journey. But, we were able to forgive, move forward and focus on our future. Advise, opinions, and support are very essential in our life. However, always remember to “switch on” your automatic filter on your eyes, ears, brain, and heart. Be very cautious and selective on every piece of advice and opinion, because not all of them can guarantee you have a better life direction.

“Without good advice, everything goes wrong, it takes careful planning for things to go right.”

It is your call. I do believe that we have heard these words often. In the end, everything will come back to us and our main task is to decide. Many people said to me not to take decisions while you are upset, unhappy, in a bad mood, or sad. Well, I fully agree with it. It is better to take time and think clearly, before end up making unwanted decisions and regretting them. It is okay to put your mobile phone on silent, switch off your internet connection, turn off your favorite drama series, stop your vehicle after a long drive for taking a proper exhale and inhale, go somewhere far away from the crowds, to have a cup of tea on the balcony and just looking the shining stars with nobody, or to close your door and start to pray alone. It is totally fine dear.

What you and I are doing in the present would affect our future. Therefore, we need to choose whether:

  • We want to be on time or late.

  • We want positivity or negativity.

  • We want to be a winner or a loser.

  • We want to do things better or worst.

  • We want to be influencers or followers.

  • We want to progress or be lazy being processed.

  • We want compliments or unpleasant comments.

  • We want to be a cornerstone or stumbling stone.

  • We want to go explore another place or stay at the same place.

  • We want to get more experience or limit our capacity and capability.

  • We want to gain more knowledge or have no time to learn new things.

  • We want to start a healthier lifestyle or keep consuming fast & junk food.

  • We want to be leaders or just normal staff who does 8 hours of duty per day.

  • We want to out of our comfort zone or continue to feel comforted and pampered by the same things over and over again.

It’s our choice and makes sure we choose the right one, that’s why we need wisdom!

“Do not forsake wisdom, and it will protect you; love it, and it will watch over you. Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”

According to Collins English Dictionary - the real meaning of wisdom:

The ability or result of an ability to think and act utilizing knowledge, experience, understanding, common sense, and insight. Accumulated knowledge, erudition, or enlightenment.

According to LinkedIn – Six Core Values that Give Life Meaning - Why is wisdom a core value?

Wisdom is everything. It gives us perspective and guidance in all that we are and all we do. Knowing and living by our values is wise. Knowledge helps us to earn a living, wisdom guides us to live a life of meaning.

According to LinkedIn – Wisdom is better than Strength:

Wisdom will always tell you what to do before you do it, running fast in a race does not make you the winner, but running in the right direction and finishing the race makes you a winner. Get knowledge above all, get understanding. Buy wisdom and sell it not.

“As dead flies cause even a bottle of perfume to stink, so a little foolishness spoils great wisdom and honor. A wise person chooses the right road; a fool takes the wrong one. You can identify fools just by they walk down the street!”

Here is the piece of humble daily best practice:

  • Try new things.

You get wiser when you put yourself out there and allow yourself to learn, make mistakes and reflect on the experience. Every chance you get, choose newness over the familiar.

  • Make mistakes.

Our mistakes make us better people in a lot of different ways. So don’t be afraid to take risks and commit errors. When we make mistakes, we learn faster and more permanently. Eventually, when you encounter the same situation again in the future, you’ll know better.

  • Do it the hard way.

When you are trying to research something, don’t google it on the internet, instead, use your God-given brain cells to figure out things. Make it harder for yourself so your mind will be forced to think creatively. Technology makes certain tasks so much easier. If you want to become wiser, try old-school methods.

  • Talk to people you don’t know.

Talk to people from different backgrounds and with different perspectives from yours, and pay attention to what you can learn from them. Try not to judge them based on your narrow point of view. The more you can empathize with others, the wiser you will be. Pay attention to what people are saying instead of letting your mind wander. Every conversation gives the chance to understand someone better, wider your views and this become wiser.

  • Share your wisdom with others.

Yes, I love this part but that’s not to say you should tell people what to do; rather lead by example. Show others the wisdom of being open, non-judgmental, and thoughtful in all situations. Think about the mentors who helped you along the way, and find ways to play that role for other people who might be able to benefit from what you’ve learned. If your friends ask for advice, do your best to point them in the direction that seems right. Don’t let your desires cloud your advice.

Your time and my time are so precious to be wasted. Nobody knows what might happen in the future. Even though, we have made and prepared our plans. Anything can happen in our journey to reach our dream, goal, and target. Therefore, we should always practice our gratitude and embrace the process and progress. Give others and yourself positive compliments too for doing a great job, not giving up though facing a challenging situation, choosing to keep walking on the rocky roads, being obedient to the process, and being so kind as to offer assistance or even help with your limited capacity and capability.

Every good thing takes time. It's a journey filled with challenges and opportunities to push you to your destination. No one can do it for you. It's your journey. You can't rush things. Allow yourself to grow in the process. Make room for failure too.

Life is about choices, chances, and changes.

You make a choice and take a chance or your life will never change. So choose to do the right things, see the good things, and start living for a purpose because you only live once.

“When your life is blessed and changed make sure you bless others, change others’ life, be a living proof in everything you do, and continue being humble with thanksgiving.” - Salinda Sadukh Ekha Therik


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Amy Temple
Amy Temple
Oct 03, 2022

A very well written essay ☺️👍.

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