‘’You are fearfully and wonderfully made’’
Let us sit back and try to remember what we have been telling ourselves daily.
Are you comparing yourself to another person?
Do you always act based on other peoples' judgment of you?
Do you wish you had been born with 100% perfect life situation?
Do you wish you had been born with brown skin or white skin?
Do you wish you had been born with straight hair or curly hair?
Do you wish you didn't have to face any challenge or struggle in your life?
If you have answered yes, then you deserve something better.
It is always a beautiful moment when you know how much worth you bring to yourself, to others, and to the world. Never let anyone tell you that you’re less than the value you know you have. Some of us might doubt our worth far too often, be that in relationships, careers or our daily life. The truth is, no one is ever going to value you more than you value yourself. You should realise that each person has their own abilities, flaws, strengths, talents and uniqueness. You were born for a purpose. So, don’t waste it!
Knowing your worth and value is vital to achieve success and happiness in life. For you to feel fully alive, you must have a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. The more you believe in yourself, the more efficient and effective you’ll be in all aspects of life. You’ll have positive self-esteem, recognise the difference you make, be clear about your values and engage in activities that are more fulfilling. We all have the ability to develop confidence and have an optimistic view of self. It all starts with understanding yourself as a person, accepting yourself unconditionally, practicing self-love, recognising that you no longer need to please other people and taking full responsibility for your life.
There Are Seven Things Which You And I Should Be Aware Of:
1. Believe that you are loved and enough
2. Engage in work that is exciting and fulfilling
3. Do not undercharge for your service
4. Recognise the difference you make
5. Be clear about your values
6. Work towards positive self-esteem
7. See yourself as a peer
Shame says that because I am flawed, I am unacceptable. Grace says that though I am flawed, I am cherished.
You Are Unique
It is something that separates you from others and people can’t replicate. Being different means that your process can be replicated by others. Being different for the sake of being different now makes you ‘normal’ because everyone wants to be different and add their own way in.
You Are Remarkable
Remarkable people challenge and inspire. They show what is possible when talent meets discipline. Truly remarkable people make a deep and lasting impression. They change the world by being an impactful person and you are one of those people.
Not Perfection, But A Progression
You might make a mistake and fail, but don’t let that past moment define who you are. You can be better and deserve a second chance. Yes, you won’t be able to change your past, but you can learn from it and change your perspective and future.
From Yourself To Others
Be that person who roots for others. Who tells a stranger they look amazing and encourages others to believe in themselves and their dream.
See Things From Different Angles
When we face a challenge or uneasy situation, try to see it from different angles. You might discuss it and seek advice from trusted people, but remember that you need to use “a special filter” before those words will be a boomerang for you and others. Be wise enough and smart enough to handle things in your life. Your life is so precious!
One Day At A Time
When things feel overwhelming, remember to take your time, take one thought at a time, one task at a time .It is a great tip to deal with each day’s problem as they come instead of worrying about the future. Take one day at a time and don’t expect things to change overnight.
Be A Living Proof
Whatever you have been through in your life, remember that everything happens for a reason. You might touch people’s heart and save people’s lives through your true story. Your scars might be a cure for people’s wounds.
Show Your Attitude Of Gratitude
Be grateful for what you have and for everything you don’t have. An attitude of gratitude will add happiness and positive vibes to your life. The more grateful you are, the more opportunities and positive things you will experience in life.
From A Mess Into A Masterpiece
Surrender your anxiety, addictions, broken pieces, flaws, hurts, pain, and weakness to God and watch Him rewrite the story of your life amazingly, you will be stronger and wiser like never before!
Stop Seeking Validation From Others
Validation is a slippery slope. It begins when we seek other people’s opinions on our decisions in life, and it becomes complicated when we depend on this validation and live our life, and it becomes complicated when we depend on this validation and live our life from the mode of people-pleasing and meeting other’s expectations. We may seek validation from others personally, such as via conversation or groups. Most often, via today’s technology, we seek validation online, such as in social media posts and engagements. Not only does this disempower us, but also adds more stress, anxiety, and depression to our lives. It is important to recognise these as red flags so that we can avoid them. Knowledge, observation and wisdom are power.
Most importantly as a believer, seeking validation disconnects us from listening to what God says through His words. That doesn’t mean you completely ignore people and live in your own little bubble. People matter to God, and so we too should place value on people. We should always love people. We should listen and pay attention to people. We just have to make sure we’re not building the foundation of ourselves or our life on what people say or think.
There’s difference between doing your job well and letting your job define you.
There’s a difference between taking care of your body and finding validation in how impressed people are by your biceps or six pack abs.
There’s a difference between showcasing your talent, or promote fitness and good health and displaying your body that may cause others to stumble. This should be done in a decent manner that promotes respect to women and never lose your dignity just for likes.
There’s a difference between sharing your life with others on social media and refreshing to see who approves of it, like it or not.
Hear me on this. No one person is going to give you all the validation you need to feel whole, because people may validate what we do, but God validates who we are. So, who are you?
“Love yourself by continually seeking wisdom and understanding, respect yourself, be kind to yourself, and be an example to others in all you do.” - Salinda Sadukh Ekha Therik
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