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Have You Ever Said To Yourself?
Why would anyone want to read my book?"
Why would anyone pay to hear me speak'?.
I cannot be as good as her!
Why would anyone marry someone like me?
That person is better than me!
All the above statements point to an imposter syndrome playing out. It is a feeling that you don’t belong. Have you ever felt like you are not deserving of a particular thing or that you distrust your own talents and abilities? Then you might be suffering from imposter syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome is a condition in which you struggle to accept your achievements, distrust your own talents and feel like a fraud. Research has shown that sometimes childhood memories can influence these feelings. Memories where you were told that you were not good as your mates and your grades were never good enough might impact negatively on the biological make-up of a child into adulthood.
Some people have also internalized that in order to be loved, they must achieve something, and it becomes a recurring cycle.
How To Overcome Imposter Syndrome
1. Disrupt the silence. Hiring a self-development coach and speaking with a psychologist are crucial in your quest to overcome imposter syndrome.
2. Feed your mind. The only way to stop acting and feeling like an impostor is to stop thinking like one. Your thoughts are key in pursuit of your healing. Cultivate a positive mental attitude towards everything and situations around you.
3. Deliberately and genuinely let go of perfectionism; understanding and realizing that no matter what you do or how hard you try, you will never be perfect is a great way to get out of imposter syndrome.
4. Stop setting unrealistic goals for yourself. Imposter syndrome affects a lot of people who are exceptional achievers. While it is fine to set high standards for yourself, clamp down on unrealistic expectations that might stand in your way and make room for mistakes and imperfections.
5. The beautiful thing is that you are not alone. Research has shown that a lot of people are plagued by imposter syndrome in their lifetimes. Establish a support network. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and bring positivity to you.
6. Believe you’re more and quit overthinking.